8 Steps to Create a Life You’ll Love

The number one thing you must always remember when you are trying to create a life you love is this:

‘The more you do of what you do, the more you get of what you’ve got.’.

This statement is derived from the Law of Attraction, which postulates that what we focus on, we get more of. For example, have you ever noticed that when a friend has just bought a new car, you start seeing that exact same type of new car everywhere? Or if you happen to think about someone you haven’t seen or thought of for a long time and suddenly, out of the blue they call you or you bump into them in the street! These are examples of the Law of Attraction in action and it can be harnessed and used in our favour, so long as we know how to use it.

All day, everyday, we are thinking about things and taking certain actions. Usually our dominant thoughts are synonymous with what we’re doing at the time. For example, you’re driving to work and you’re thinking thoughts such as, ‘Man, I hate all this traffic’, ‘I really don’t want to go to work today’, ‘I hate my job (sigh)’. These thoughts are most likely very powerful, because they have a fair amount of emotion behind them. They are also negative. The more you focus on these things in your mind on your way to work, the more of the same you’re going to attract back into your life. You’re spending that time thinking about what you don’t want, however, the sad truth is that you’re attracting the very same back into your life.

It is only when we make the choice and effort to live more consciously that we can effectively make a change in our lives. By taking the time to recognise what we want and to identify exactly the kind of life we’d love to live, we are basically putting the Law of Attraction to work on exactly that – on our behalf. The more time spent thinking and focusing on the things you want in your life, and the more actions you take toward that same goal, the more of it you’ll bring to you.

I’d like to change, but…

For most of us, Life tends to stay on Autopilot. Most of our time is spent doing what we think we should be doing, rather than the things we want to. The idea of having a life we‘d love to live is something we reserve for the future when certain other less obtainable conditions have been met, such as when we’re Rich, Retired, the kids have moved out, we have our dream job, etc.

What’s distressing about this, however, is that although most of us have these pre-conceived ideas about what we would do if we could with our lives, too many of us never really make the required effort to do something about it. We’re continually telling ourselves that when this happens, we will do this; ‘When the kids are older and have lives of their own I will have more time for myself.’ ‘When I’m Rich, I’ll travel the world.’

Constantly making these open-ended and false promises to yourself is actually setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. How are you being truly honest with yourself if you are constantly making yourself do things you have no desire to do on the premise that you will do what you want to do, sometime in the future, when you very well know, that you have no intention to make the plans or effort to put such desires in place?

If you’ve never made the required effort to have a life you love before, what makes you think that when the kids have moved out, you’re going to suddenly start to act differently and be motivated to change so easily?

Even if you are amazingly inspired and do take some action, the one question you’d find you keep asking yourself would be – Why didn’t I do this years ago? Exactly.

Why wait?

There is no rule that says we must live our lives of conformity until a certain event takes place in the future.

Let’s look at retirement for instance. Many people promise themselves that if they work hard at their jobs for 30 or more years, they will treat themselves to a big reward at the end of it all.

These same people, however are forgetting the fact that by the time they do retire, hey are probably 65 years old, or older and they’re either too tired, sick or broke to finally do whatever it was that they kept promising themselves they’d do.

‘I’m too old to change’, would be their motto and they’d remain miserable, and would always wonder what might have been…

Don’t be fooled into thinking that you have to follow the rest of the pack. The people who choose not to live a life they’d truly be excited about right now are missing out – big time.

Letting fear of the unknown take hold is going to cloud your judgement. I’m not saying that you cannot be afraid, because that’s unnatural, what I am saying, however, is to not let your fear stop you from making a change.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~ Nelson Mandela

If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, but when you do take the steps and required action to create your amazing life, the rewards are substantial and you’ll be eternally grateful that you made the effort.

Your life is happening right now, so why put off living the life you’d love to live?

Why waste another day living in a way that is not suited to or desired by your true self?

“ A life lived in fear is a life half lived” ~ Strictly Ballroom, 1992

The Life I’d love to Live requires lots of Money…

It’s a common thing as a human to get sidetracked by material wants. Many people tend to measure success by the type of car they drive or their job title, however, these things are merely for looks.

Living a life you’d love to live is about more than having a sports car, boat and mansion by the sea (as nice as those things would be…)

It’s about finding your true self and living in the moment, doing the things you love.

You have a gift to offer everyone.

When you are living a life you love, it means you have found a way to provide value to other people with your gift.

The enthusiasm, effort and passion you display within your life by giving your gift to others will be rewarded in many ways, such as money, friends, family, health and happiness.

If you are true to yourself and stop ruling your life by ‘should’s’ all the time, then you will discover what it is you would really love to be doing with your time.

Our gifts come in all shapes and sizes. Mozart had the gift of Music, Monet had the gift of Art. George Clooney has the gift of Acting and Handsome Good Looks. J.K. Rowling has the gift of Storytelling and Stephen Spielberg has the gift of Filmmaking.

What’s yours?

When you’ve made this discovery, only then, will you begin to discover true happiness.

How do I Create a Life I Love?

Use the 8 Steps Worksheet to fill out each step to discover your own Amazing Life. This worksheet is a fully interactive Free Download PDF file designed to help you identify your own personal desires & goals. Print it out and fill in your answers if you wish, or you can simply start typing them in straight away, as you think of them.

It will help you to be as honest with yourself during this process as you can. There are no wrong answers, only your personal truth – and there is nothing at all wrong with that, because it is who you are.

Below is a guideline of how the worksheet should be worked through and will hopefully give you an idea of just how helpful this process can be.

These 8 steps, if taken seriously and frequently, can help you to generate the things you most desire to have and achieve in your life, which is a sure way to put yourself on a path to creating a Life you Love. Take the steps however many times you feel you need to. Maybe once a month or only once every six months. The point is, to keep in touch with your true self, your desires and goals for yourself and your Life.

1. What are your Dominant Thoughts?

What are you current Dominant Thoughts? Sit down for a moment, somewhere quiet, and start to write down the main thoughts you are having at that moment, or thoughts you know you’ve had today. For Example, when I tried this recently these were my own dominant thoughts:

• I am unhappy/hating my job
• I want a new Computer
• I want to leave my job within the next 6 months
• I am sick of having no money and having to say things like ‘I can’t afford it’.

Don’t limit yourself. If you have hundreds of thoughts, write them down (ok, maybe not hundreds, but you get the idea).

2. What are your Dominant Actions?

What are your current Dominant Actions? Just as you did with your Dominant Thoughts, sit down and make a list of the things you are doing with your time for 95% of the time. For Example, my dominant actions were:

• Working at my Day Job
• Working on my website and saying I should find more time to do this
• Cleaning my house/doing housework
• Socialising with friends & family
• Watching TV and Movies

There is no need to write down things like Sleeping, or Eating as these are things that no person can do without and are stating the obvious. What we want to do is ascertain what you spend most of your time doing and whether or not it’s taking you to where you want to be in your life. When I made my list, I realised that I was nowhere near where I wanted to be by the way I was spending my time. It was a big eye opener. Although I thought I was spending enough time doing what I wanted to do like working on my websites, I realised after writing it down, that I was making way too many excuses as to why I couldn’t spend more time doing it.

3. What are your Current Goals for your Ideal Life?

What are your current Goals in your life? If you really hate the ‘G’ word, then answer this: What do you want to have/be/do within say, the next 3-6 months?

Here’s mine for another example:

• To quit my job and work from home making money via passive income.
• To do something exciting/fabulous for my 30^th birthday
• To buy the things I want/need – New Computer, Golf Clubs, Homewares, New Dinner Set.
• To visit my family interstate and throw a surprise birthday party for my Dad.

4. What are my Current Actions taking me toward my Goals?

So, now you know what you want, but what are you currently doing about it? I would wager that your answer is pretty close to mine, which is nada, zip, zero, nothing! If you have done a couple of things to get you closer to these goals, then great! Write them down.

5. What are my Current Thoughts regarding these Goals?

This step is very important. In fact I would go so far as to say that it is one of the most important steps. Why? Here’s why, if you are wanting to be/do or have something and are maybe doing a couple of things now and then to try to get yourself where you want to be, but are constantly thinking to yourself , ‘What’s the point? ‘ It’s never going to happen anyway! Then how on earth will it ever happen? If you yourself don’t even believe it will.

Your thoughts are the key.

Here are my thoughts I was having at the time:

• Job – ‘I can’t quit my job until my income is replaced. It takes a LONG time for a Blog or Online income to make money. I’ll feel guilty not working and even more guilty for leaving my job/boss.’
• Birthday – ‘I’m not actually sure what I want to do, who to invite, if I can actually do anything, if I can actually afford to do anything.’
• Buying Things I want – ‘I can’t afford it!

So there you have it. My own problem started to come out here. I knew what I wanted, but my thoughts were dragging me down. I was sabotaging myself – not a good thing. So my next step was to look my fears and thoughts straight in the eye and make a list of…

6. The Actions I need to take to achieve my goals are:

So, if I’m ever going to have/be or do the things I want I must take action. My current attempt at action toward these goals has been non-existent, so I obviously must improve on that. Make a list of the actions you know you must take in order to get yourself where you want to be in 3-6 months regarding the Goals you want to achieve. For me, it was this:

• Job – Focus on Passive Income source more and learn about/expand on it. Rely on day job less and work harder at Home job.
• Birthday – Find out about flights and hotels at destination. Do a rough cost outline and set the dates for the celebration. Send out invitations to friends and family.
• Buying the things I want – Organise a savings account and put money aside. Price all the things I want via catalogues/internet etc, and work out a timeline of saving for them. Be grateful thankful for the things I have already and allow new things to come to me.

7. The Dominant Thoughts I need to think to Achieve my Desires are:

So, we’ve already established how important your thoughts are in this process. Now we know what you want, and what action you need to take in order to get you closer to having it, we must also re-program your thoughts to help it all along. Positive Affirmations are a great tool in allowing your desires to come to you. Come up with a single sentence in reference to each of your Goals. Memorise them and say them to yourself when you’re driving, walking, doing dishes, in the shower and falling asleep. For example:

• ‘I love my work from home job and passive income of $X per week.’
• ‘I am so excited about my planned and paid for birthday trip to…’
• ‘I am so happy and grateful now that I have my new computer/golf clubs/dinner set.’

8. My Personal Summary

Now that you have mapped out the desires, actions and thoughts you need to achieve the Life you want for yourself, make a summary of it so you can refer to it often.Your summary could look something like this:

Goal: To quit my job and make $X per week in passive income.

Actions Required: Focus on Passive Income source more and learn about/expand on it. Rely on day job less and work harder at Home job.

Thoughts Required: ‘I love my work from home job and passive income of $X per week.’

No more excuses! You can have a Life you Love, it just takes some effort.

Nobody is going to do it or make it happen for you – you must do it and make it happen for yourself.