Feeling Lost? A guide to working out what road to take.

We all have those times when we feel like we know what we want, but don’t know if we really want that for sure. Or we have no idea where to go from here.

With our day to day lives busier than ever before, all of us living in this generation have to be that much more organised than our ancestors were decades ago. We have to know what we want and how to get it, when to stay focused and when to relax, how to eat right, how much exercise we need to stay fit, what is right for our children, how to keep control of our finances and how to plan for the future, How to make time for yourself, etc, etc….it’s exhausting!

Anyone who says they have it all figured out is either lying or fooling themselves. None of us know exactly what to do all the time, but the good news is that it’s ok. It isn’t expected that we should have all the answers. A fool will fumble on pretending they know everything and have it all under control – a wise person will admit they’re stuck and will know when to ask for help.

Most of the time, the answers we seek about a particular situation are within us. Many people don’t realise this, and seek help outside of themselves through other people such as Clairvoyants or Psychologists, or via substance abuse such as Alcohol or Drugs.

If you allow yourself to admit that you don’t have it all worked out, stop and think for a moment, the guidance you seek will come to you naturally. Not knowing where to begin can be a hurdle in itself, so here are some tips to help you create a path to finding your guidance within:

Calm Yourself

You’re no doubt worked up by this problem and have been over and over it in your mind. You have most likely thought about what to do hundreds of times and have gotten your mind in such a state of confusion over it. Find somewhere you can relax and won’t be disturbed. Calm your mind, breathe deeply. When you feel that the whirlwind within your mind has subsided a little then it’s time to:

Look Within

Begin by having a conversation with yourself. This may sound crazy, but if you deny that you have a voice in your head that is even more crazy (just as long as it’s not several voices!) We all have an inner voice which is usually our most logical self. Start small.

Ask yourself something easy, like ” What’s all the fuss about?”

Don’t try to get all the answers at once. Stay calm and focused. When you’re comfortable with the idea of conversing with your inner voice about your dilemma then…

Separate Yourself from the Issue

You need to remove the emotion from this situation if you’re going to sort out any kind of solution to your problem. To help you take an objective look at the situation, role play with yourself. Act as if you are a Psychologist and you’re asking yourself questions as if you were someone else.

Example: “Where are you going with your life? Are you happy with what you’re doing now?

If you’re not happy, then why are you still doing it? What is stopping you from doing what you really want to do in your life?”

Answer your questions to yourself in the second person to maintain the illusion of emotional separation from your problems.

Example: “Q. Are you happy with what you’re doing now? A. No…

Q. So what are you going to do about it?”

If you find you’re answering ‘I don’t know’ to many of your questions to yourself, then take a different angle toward the situation.

Q. “What is stopping you from doing what you really want to do in your life?”

A. “I don’t know”.

New angle,

Q. “What is the one major reason/thing/fear that is stopping you from taking this road right now?”

A.”I’m afraid I will fail and lose all our money”.

When you start to find out the real reasons about why you’re feeling lost, then you can work through them and begin to make plans toward your goal.

If it feels a little strange talking to yourself, then try it this way – What advice would you give someone else in your situation?

Most of the time we blow things out of proportion in our own minds due to fear and the unknown. If you try to act as though you’re giving advice to a close friend, these fears will have less effect. You’re trying to be objective here. Look at the problem you have and find the most logical solution. The less emotion, worry and doubt that you let in to the equation the better.

For further inspiration about not knowing what road to take when you have an opportunity in your life, this poem works wonders:

The Road not Taken

By Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Trust yourself and  your thoughts. Whatever you are capable of thinking, you are just as capable of achieving. Ask for the answer to your questions about what to do and which road to take and wait patiently for the answers. They will come.

Whether in a stroke of genius, a dream, a suggestion by another person or a sudden inspiration – the answers you seek will come.

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