Hey, Don’t let the Man get you Down. But How?

It has most likely happened to 99% of us. We allow people to get to us all the time –  your Family Members say the wrong thing, Your Partner Gets to You, So-called friends spread Nasty untrue rumours and lies and people talk about you behind your back. Most of us would have first experienced this type of scenario back in Primary School. You’re friends one day, enemies the next. Then on to High School, when teenagers can be so scathing and malicious, sometimes hurting your feelings more than they would ever realise, or than you would ever let them know.

In some cases, real friends are the ones who alert you to the lies someone is spreading about you, in others, you have the unfortunate discovery yourself. Nobody would know more than Celebrities, how this feels, as they have to deal with it as a part of their daily lives. Clearly, they have come up with their own techniques to coping with lies, rumours and gossip being spread around about them, so what I want know is, is it as simple as, ‘Not letting The Man get you down’?

In my recent research of this topic, I came across mountains of information. One of my favourite quotes is this:

‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’

These wise words were spoken by Eleanor Roosevelt, the first lady of the United States from 1933 – 1945. As an activist for Civil Rights, Ms. Roosevelt was no stranger to prominence and being noted for her opinions and actions. She was also an international author, speaker, politician, and activist, so to sum up, she knew what she was talking about. See more of Eleanor Roosevelt’s great quotes HERE

I honestly believe that the key is within this quote and want to take a closer look at it. By saying that no one can make you feel ‘inferior’, I believe she is referring to when we feel as though we’re not ‘good enough’ to be/do or have something we want. She is implying that those people who thrive on trying to bring others down, just to make themselves look better and feel better, will have NO success in doing so unless you let them. Unless you decide to let these people hurt your feelings, upset you, anger you or press your buttons, they can have NO affect on you, because you choose not to let them.

You see, there is always a choice. Deepak Chopra is a great teacher in this way of thinking. In his book  ’The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success’, He teaches us that you always have a choice about how to feel about a particular situation. If someone tells you that they’ve heard nasty rumours about you, you can choose to be upset by it, or you can choose to not care. Unfortunately, you cannot control what other people have done or said, but what you can control is your own actions and feelings regarding the situation.

So when someone says, ‘Don’t let The Man get you down’, they are absolutely right. It is as simple as not letting any rumours affect your emotions or life.

If you can have the strength to not let it affect you, and to not care, then you are the winner in that situation, because the person trying to bring you down will not have succeeded. They will look like the malicious and nasty person that they are. They will lose energy and momentum because you will be gaining yours. You will be free of any of those negative emotions or that negative energy because you have the key within you.

The key of choice.

If you never consent to letting anyone make you feel unworthy, inferior, poor, not good enough or guilty of something you didn’t do, then you will always feel empowered, because you will always know something that ‘The Man’ doesn’t.

You will always know that negative energy is like Fire, it can only feed and grow bigger when there is Fuel to carry it. Take away the fuel sources of a fire like Air and Wood or Gas and what have you got? A big Fat nothing!

So now you know, that it’s all up to you.

If you’ve been letting ‘em get to you STOP!

Get up, cheer up and change how you’re choosing to feel about the situation. It’s all purely under your own control!

Take Care, be the best person you can be and in closing I’d like to leave you with another absolute cracker from Eleanor:

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.